When it comes to anal sex, let’s not forget about prostate massagers, y’all. These curved sex toys are designed to hit the prostate (a.k.a. the P-spot), the walnut-sized gland that lies inside the pelvis behind the penis and that’s packed with nerve endings that can feel really good when stimulated. Whether you’re giving or receiving: In order to help determine the best prostate massager for your personal needs, we got some advice from sex experts and educators.
What should you consider when shopping for a prostate massager?
There are all sorts of prostate massagers, including ones with rumbly vibrations, variable speeds, and remote controls. If you’re shopping for your first, choose one that has a rounded end, which is gentler on the rectum, Carol Queen, PhD, a sex educator with Good Vibes, tells SELF. It should also be on the smaller, slimmer side, so you can get used to the feeling of anal insertion. She recommends starting with a toy that has about the girth of a finger and then optionally moving up from there.
Any toy you use should be made of nonporous, body-safe materials like medical-grade silicone, stainless steel, or lucite. Importantly, “[A prostate toy] must have a flared base so it doesn’t slip inside,” says Dr. Queen. And be sure to use lube, as the anus doesn’t self-lubricate.
The best prostate massagers
Here, we’ve highlighted the best prostate massagers according to experts and shoppers.
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